“Come together, right now, over me…” …. we wonder what Lennon / McCartney had in mind when they wrote these very descriptive words. They probably explained that somewhere in a polite way and were probably not thinking what we at Room Privée think when we listen to this (yup … we got dirty minds!).
However, coming together – or shall we use orgasming together – is quite something! How many times have you tried to reach an orgasm at the same time as you partner? When you try, do you actually manage to do so at the same time? And a key question; is coming together a sign of strong connection between you two, true love, or some serious lust multiplied by 1000?
It might surprise you that reaching an orgasm together comes from a primitive instinct for survival, conservation of the tribe, i.e. reproduction, however strange it may sound. This was discovered when a group of scientists put a tiny camera in a woman’s vagina in order to monitor what happens during an orgasm. Ok, sounds a bit creepy with a group of scientists, vagina, camera, orgasm… Anyhow, it’s in the name of science.
What this group of ambitious scientists found out was that at the moment of climaxing, the muscles of the vagina shrink upwards and the cervix stretches forward and opens to absorb the semen, sort of like a vacuum cleaner. What this means is that if people reach an orgasm at the same time the woman is more likely to get pregnant. Huh?! Who could have imagined… Quite useful information here I’d say!
From a statistical point of view, 65% of straight women claim they climax usually/always and some studies have reviled that around 30% of women seldom/never reach an orgasm with their partner. I’m not going to put my head on the line for those numbers, but they somehow all indicate the obvious; men usually orgasm, women sometimes. In addition, the average male orgasm lasts far shorter than the average female orgasm.
Considering these facts here above, the reproductive accuracy and efficiency of Homo sapiens isn’t perfect. Getting an orgasm together is simply a complicated task. We must, in fact, know HOW TO orgasm and also control the TIMING of the orgasm in order to come together. Don’t act surprised! Men usually don’t need to learn how to orgasm, that seems to be quite easy for the grand majority of them. However, most men have problems with accurately timing their orgasm… Many women, on the other hand, are bad at both! Many don’t know how to orgasm and can surely not control the timing. For the women it’s essential to know what you like, how you like it, how the clitoris responds to stimulation as well as your G-zone.
Now, if you’d like to come together…
Since many couple are eager to climax together, I’ll give you few tips and tricks so your attempts are more likely to be successful.
RELAX: Being too focused on coming together can probably be counterproductive and generate far from optimal results. Enjoy the moment and the sensations and stop focusing on achieving that “goal”.
FOREPLAY: I can never ever stress this point too much: The foreplay is simply the key for both of you to see the stars. The quickies can be good but make it far harder climaxing together. On the other hand, if you dedicate the necessary time to warm up the engines, you’ll realize that things can get much easier :)
COMMUNICATE: I’ve said it about billion times; communication is key! Tell your partner where you want to be touched, and how… “Yes… right there it’s good, a bit harder please … no not there… yes just like that!” Give clues and assist your partner to get it right.
ALWAYS PLAY WITH THE CLITORIS: The clitoris is an essential character in this play, you simply can’t put it aside! It’s the only organ designed exclusively to make us burst with pleasure, so please take an advantage of it. Give the clitoris affection orally and by using the hands, and you’ll realize how you’re increasing your chance of coming together. Many women, including myself, need much stimulation and there is no better way than using a quality vibrator to fire up the clitoris. A personal favourite of mine is this adorable Massaging Wand, which has a dual motor in order to to deliver strong vibrations directly to your precious pearl. Both ends vibrate which increases the usability of this lovely toy ;)
And since you’re reading this, I’ll give you a 20% discount of this toy. Simply use this code “CLITORIS20” at the end of the checkout process and, voila!
Some positions are in fact better than others…
I am convinced that you’re a dedicated student of sex striving for a 10, so I’ll give some recommendations that’ll make it easier to achieve your goal of coming together:
- DOGGYSTYLE: Probably one of the more famous positions that works for almost everything, where a person is penetrated from behind. It’s particularly good for women whereas the G-zone is stimulated directly, and additionally, they can have their hands free to play with their sweet clitoris.
SPOON: With this position, as with the doggystyle, it’s easy for the penis to penetrate and stimulate the G-zone directly. And being so close to each other will always magnify the pleasure!
But remember, if you don’t come at the same time it’s not the end of the world. If you come first, make sure you help your partner climax as well. And potentially, you’ll feel like taking another round?