The Coolidge Effectand is a phenomenon that has been detected among humans as well as other species, specifically regarding the males. After sexual intercourse, the males usually need some time before they can take another round...
Having an orgasm can be a bit complicated. Maybe not for the boys, but at least for us women. It can require some concentration, knowledge, time, and desire. Rome wasn't built in a day, and having an orgasm usually takes more than few minutes...
How to get into BDSM when you’re a complete novice? I like to argue that we all have a “dark side” and we’re just taming it to be able to live in our civilized world. Freud claimed that being part of a civilized society would somehow protect us from personal chaos, and therefore we have created communal authorities...