Here’s the science. Studies show that 70% of women admit to faking an orgasm at some point in their lives – a fact that shouldn’t surprise anyone. Read “admit”, because some will never admit it and this number is therefore probably a bit higher. But why is it that some women don’t orgasm and end up faking it? Psychology Today reports in a recent US study that women who claim to orgasm “usually/always” were more likely to:

1. be on the receiving end of oral sex
2. have longer sessions
3. be happier in their relationship with their partner
4. openly ask their lover what they like/enjoy in bed
5. give compliments to their partner for his/her lovemaking performance
6. tease the partner about doing something sexual
7. wear sexy lingerie
8. try new positions, that includes anal play
9. fulfil sexual fantasies, including dirty talk
10. express love and intimacy during sex

However, there’s a twist to the story. Lesbians are far more likely to have an orgasm than straight women, where 86% of them claim to orgasm usually/always versus only 65% of straight women, which have the lowest orgasm score of all the subgroups researched. In fact, lesbians and men (all men) are the two groups that are most likely to have an orgasm. The research concluded that the reason “[…] lesbians’ sex partners frequently orgasmed likely reflects the superior ability of lesbians to bring their female partners to orgasm - because they incorporated more of the Top Ten (here above) techniques that enhance the possibilities of women orgasming”. Those boys just don’t know what to do!

Apparently, lesbians know where the clitoris is and know what to do with it
Illustration: Lo Cole

Then, why do straight women (lesbians don’t have to) fake it? In all the endless different articles available on this question alone, you can pretty much boil the answers down to three main factors:

• “Mate-guarding behaviour”
  A study published in the Archives of Sexual Behaviour (a peer-reviewed academic journal in sexology) revealed that most women faked an orgasm simply to pretend the sex was better than it actually was to keep the guy from straying, something researches call “mate-guarding behaviour”. I.e. the more they thought the guy would be likely to cheat on them, the more likely they were to fake it. We here at Room Privée find this to be terribly sad! #bettersex
• The escalation of sexual excitement:
  Another study, published in the same journal, concluded that faking it could actually help many women becoming more sexually aroused, and therefore increasing the likelihood of actually getting a real orgasm. Basically, fake it till you make it!
• End bad sex
  A research presented most recently at a conference of the British Psychological Society - Psychology of Women revealed what most of us girls already know; the women simply wanted to end bad sex. Sometimes, even if women initially consent to sexual encounter, they more often fake orgasm to speed up the boring process. Let this sad fact sink in for a second.

Final fact: 95% of men think their bedroom skillset is above average… LOL 😂