Having an orgasm can be a bit complicated. Maybe not for the boys, but at least for us women. It can require some concentration, knowledge, time, and desire. Rome wasn't built in a day, and having an orgasm usually takes more than few minutes. 

Ok yes, I’m a bit obsessed with this subject, but some people need to know that it’s the foreplay that lays the foundation for reaching an orgasm, especially for women. I’ve many times discussed the importance of foreplay, how healthy it can be, how important it is, but never really spent time on the matter. So today, for all of you who need it, I’ll give you some tips. 

What is foreplay?
Basically, everything that happens from the beginning of the foolishness until the sexual act itself begins. Some people only take into consideration the kisses, the caresses, the oral sex, and all the play that happens right before the intercourse, but for us at Room Privée, it’s only the tip of the iceberg. Flirting can be foreplay, the way you look at each other, touch, smile etc. can all be considered foreplay. Stop being so boring and start with the foreplay before you actually get down to the sex itself. Here below are some points, which are certainly NOT exhaustive.

• Say NO
  Be hard to get, basically. There’s nothing sexier than provoking with a little smile and saying no. Patient caresses, taking your time to get to your key points. Let them make the move to come and kiss you, and when they’re ready, move your lips away. They are the sweet tortures that make all of us want more.

• Tease under the table / at the bar
  You’re out having dinner or drinks and begin to caress them between their legs. Or play with the straw between your lips while looking at them and giving a little smile. Those details drive everyone crazy.

• At the movies
  You’re at the movies, innocently touching each other’s hand. As you reach for the popcorn, you shamelessly rub the crotch; or the breasts. Or be even more direct as it’s dark anyway; give a kiss and touch each other more daringly. After the movie you’ll both be so turned on it’s just “Taxi take us home, now!”

• Spicy dinner
  There’s a quiet dinner at home. Feed them in a suggestive way. Have a chocolate and ask them to eat it directly from your mouth. Everything it takes to get to the big dessert.

• Sexting
  You’re at home, your partner hasn’t arrived yet, and you’re feeling horny. Words are natural aphrodisiacs, and nothing increases the body temperature like telling them what you want to do, or how horny you are. Oh, to hell with it - they say that a photo is worth a thousand words, right? Send them a sexy selfie, or a photo of you two together in bed… Let’s see how long it takes them to arrive home after that.

• Dirty Dancing
  You’re in a club with friends and take your partner to the dance floor. Dance very close, rub your bum against them, be bad, and you’ll soon see that both of you will only be thinking about what happens when you get home.

Traditional foreplay
Don’t you just hate the word traditional when talking about sex? Well, there are some foreplay traditions we just have to mention. Interestingly, so many (especially men) seem to need those reminders. My bi and lesbian friends shake their heads when I state the obvious, but, research on the subject seem to indicate that women need/want more foreplay.

• Oral sex: Fun, sexy, exciting, and certainly the door to incredible orgasms.
• Caressing: All over the body. Face, neck, shoulders, breasts, abdomen, thighs … take your time and see how the desire increases.
• Gentle bites: Neck, ears, lips, nipples … discover the most sensitive points of your lover and go crazy.
• Kisses: There are never too many kisses. Kisses make everything more intimate, so don’t stop kissing while you play.
• Control: Tie your partner to bed and make sure they enjoy without being able to do anything. More sweet tortures please! Got nothing to tie them with? This beginners kit might help.

All clear now? Let’s stop seeing the foreplay as the boring stuff that has to happen before sex, and start seeing it as an integral part of the sex itself. As for us girls, good foreplay will intensely increase the chances of climaxing.

Create the desire!